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What Do I Say When My Child Misses Their Cut?

By SwimSwam, 01/24/19, 12:00PM CST


I found through the years that when my kids tried too hard, they would miss their cuts by fractions of seconds. One of our favorite coaches told me that our kids had to be having fun to swim fast. 

Dear Swim Mom,

I need some advice on how to handle a certain situation. My daughter is now nine. She needs to hit a qualifying time to be in our big meet coming up. She missed it this weekend by a few tenths of a second in several events. She’s really put on brave face, but it does sting her a bit to be the only one in her group of friends that hasn’t qualified, yet.

She’s a little discouraged at the moment. She’s a hard worker and never misses practice. Her coach said she always gives 110%. But now she’s down in the dumps that her hard work didn’t translate to a qualifying time. Just wanted to know what’s the best thing to tell her and pep her up.