Are you at one with your activity? Are you calm and peaceful and dedicated to doing what you can that day? If you are, you are winning.
One of the elements I have noticed over the years from observing children's tennis is the incorporation of competition through elimination. There is a winner and a loser. If you miss, you sit out. If you lose, then you pick up balls, you do push-ups, or you run a suicide. What are we teaching our kids? We are teaching them that failure is bad.
We are teaching them a mindset of duality. This or that. We are teaching them that picking up balls is a punishment and fitness is a punishment. I always thought picking up balls was something everyone did as a part of the group. It was a way for everyone to work together. It is a form of group work.
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