All of this pressure on kids whose parents are trying to live vicariously through them results in parent and child living in a performance mindset.
Sit through any youth sports event and you are sure to hear a parent or two or three who are obviously trying to live vicariously through their children. It happens in the classroom too, when parents become extremely hands-on with their kids’ work.
In both of these situations, parents are determined to make sure their children do well, even if means the parents do it for them. Why do Mom and Dad do this?